Etiquette FAQ

Learning proper wedding etiquette may not be the most exciting part of planning your wedding, but it is necessary. Since most people aren’t familiar with wedding invitation etiquette, we’ve gathered helpful tips and advice to walk you through the process. Use this FAQ to help you create your wedding stationery suite.

Spell it out.

Always, always spell it out. You can use titles like Mr. and Mrs., but you must spell out words appearing in the venue’s address like boulevard, avenue and street. Depending how formal you would like your invitation to be, we would recommend spelling out the date and time of your celebration as well. For example,

Saturday, the ninth of June

two thousand sixteen

Where are the commas and periods?

I know it will feel like you’re breaking your grammar teacher’s heart, but I promise it’s okay to leave out periods. Line breaks act as commas and periods in wedding invitation wording. You may use periods in titles like Mr. and Mrs. Commas are still necessary in dates and if separating information in the middle of a line. Otherwise, they usually aren’t needed.

When are last names needed?

A last name isn’t needed for the bride or groom if their parents’ names are included on the invitation. It’s considered redundant. For example,

Blake and Rebecca Thomas

are pleased to announce the

marriage of their daughter

Delilah Rose


Logan James

son of Ronald and Pamela Wallace

Who comes first?

Wedding invitation etiquette states the bride’s name comes first. This is especially true if the bride’s parents are hosting the wedding.
How to indicate divorced parents on an invitation.

The names of married couples are on the same line. The names of divorced couples are on separate lines.


Do not capitalize the first word of each line. Only capitalize the first word of the invitation and all proper nouns. Capitalize any line that stands on its own if it would be the start of a new sentence.
“The honor of your presence…” or “The pleasure of your company…”

“The honor of your presence” indicates the wedding is in a place of worship. “The pleasure of your company” indicates the wedding is taking place at a secular venue.

Honor or Honour?

The “ou” has become a personal style preference. “Honour” and “favour” are the British spellings of “honor” and “favor.” Some feel the British spellings are more formal and dignified. However, the choice is yours. Just be sure to stay consistent throughout the entire wedding invitation ensemble.

The proper joining word.

The word “to” between the bride and groom’s names indicates a Christian wedding. “And” is used on invitations issued by the bride and groom, and wedding reception invitations.

Does “and” belong in the year?

Nope! The word “and” in numbers actually represents a decimal point. So unless you want to get married in 2000.16, let’s leave the “and” out.